As humans, we are biologically geared to be part of a tribe. On a primal level, if we are not part of the tribe, we are at risk of attack or threat. When we face rejection on any level, this triggers our nervous system to respond in our fight or flight. It feels unsafe and so we adopt coping mechanisms to avoid feeling that rejection again. This can include protecting ourselves from connection, changing parts of ourselves to be accepted, and choosing safe people therefore avoiding others we feel have potential to reject us. Our inner critic tells us stories around us not being enough for others and when faced with being vulnerable, we can trigger this rejection.

When we understand this is how we’re responding and where our original point of rejection came from, we can start to create new patterns and conditioning.

We can create safety in new ways of connecting and experience deep and profound connection with others in our life.

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