Could Everything You’re Doing to get Pregnant be the Reason You’re Not Pregnant Yet?

There are some of us that would never leave things to chance, fate or destiny.

We prefer to have a planned process starting with a Dr check-up, some blood work, pre-natal vitamins and some fun in the bedroom. We assume things will happen relatively quickly because we’re young and healthy, but when nothing happens in those first few months, we start to wonder if there is something more that we could be doing to ensure that BFP (Big Fat Positive).

Quickly the “plan” you started with turns into more of a project of sorts and the first port of call is of

course good ole’ Dr Google. You reduce your caffeine and alcohol intake, start eating cleaner and get your partner taking a men’s fertility multivitamin. After baby dancing you awkwardly throw your legs up the wall or cycle them to help the little swimmers on their journey… but still nothing.

Every month that goes by you feel a mounting level of pressure, sadness and grief as that unwanted visitor arrives. It feels so heavy and even though your partner consoles you in the best way they know how, you feel incredibly confused and alone in your journey especially when others around you seem to be falling pregnant so easily.

Does this sound familiar?

Convinced there is still more you can do, you continue on with your previous protocol but throw in some sperm friendly lubricant, step up your lifestyle changes to include cutting out toxins from your home, you cut out alcohol completely and start booking appointments with alternative health providers and an OBGYN to run a new range of different tests to rule out any underlying issues. Your calendar is filling up fast, you feel like you’re spending a fortune on pills, potions and appointments. This causes you to become less productive at work as you need time off and aren’t as focused as you once were and to top it off you’ve thrown your back out from all that awkward leg work!

Sound about right? So, what is going on?

Whilst there is nothing “wrong” with getting healthier and seeking help and support from others, planning the biggest event in your life to date, perhaps one that you’ve been dreaming about since you were a little girl has now become next level pressure! Research has shown that women going through infertility and IVF have depression and stress levels similar to those with heart disease, AIDS and cancer.

This stress is not a great friend of fertility. Stress in the body kickstarts a chain of events to save us from primitive life threats such as the sabretooth tiger by slowing or shutting down unimportant functions such as digestion and reproduction. Putting mounting pressure on yourself means you could be repelling the very thing you want the most. Yet it is the one thing that health professionals don’t take into

consideration when seeing a patient going through infertility. I understand first hand that attempting to get out of this cycle feels incredibly difficult, so I’ve put together my top tips to help you increase your fertility and bring back the joy in your life!

Kate’s Top 10 Tips to reduce the stress & improve your chances of getting pregnant

1. Be Kind To Yourself

Know that you are not alone, you haven’t done anything wrong, you are not to blame, you are not broken and in time, this too shall pass. “Surrender to what is, let go of what was and have faith in what will be”

2. Get Curious

Vibe Marie Kondo and ask yourself if all the things you are doing to fall pregnant are sparking joy or causing more stress. If it is not enjoyable then give it a rest. Are there other emotional blocks at play? What are the stories you’ve been telling yourself about your ability or inability to conceive, give birth or be a parent?

3. Reduce your stress

Take some time to think about different areas of your life that could be adding to your stress levels and how you can reduce the burden on yourself. Areas to look at might include work, finances, health, lifestyle, friendships, family, romance (or lack thereof), your physical environment where you spend majority of your time.

4. Get Enough Sleep

Sleep is incredibly important for proper rest and repair of our bodies. If you are lying awake at night thinking about your fertility journey then make sure you have a consistent night time ritual to wind your body down for the night. Things like a bath or shower, journal writing, no tv or electronic devices and turn the dimmer down on lights in your home.

5. Self Care

Make an effort to schedule in a good dose of rest and relaxation. Get regular massages, float tanks, lie on the beach, meditate, long hot bath with some candles and aromatherapy, take a nanna nap, go for a walk in nature – whatever floats your boat.

6. Take time off

How many times have you been told by a well meaning relative or friends to “just relax” or “go on a holiday” it’s frustrating and even angering, I get it! I’ve been there myself, however taking time off from all the stresses in life can be just what the Dr ordered and a great way to divert your focus.

7. Talk to someone

The emotional toll for someone going through infertility is unexplainable to anyone who hasn’t experienced it themselves. It is crucial to have a good support network around you and process the loss and grief that you are feeling whether it be with a friend, family member or counsellor.

8. Redirect Control

I personally found this was the toughest part of the journey… I put my whole life on hold till we fell pregnant. Big holidays, job opportunities, new car, music festivals and concerts because “what if I’m pregnant?”. The truth is none of it matters, you’ll figure it out if and when it happens. My best advice is not to say no to things or plan things “in case”. Instead create new and exciting plans and goals and start working on them. Take that need to control and redirect it into something else. When those obsessing thoughts come to you, simply say hi and goodbye, repeat a supportive positive supportive affirmation to yourself and think about that new goal and the next step toward achieving it.

9. Have Fun

Look after your relationship and spend quality time together doing things you both love. Spend time with friends and family that enrich your life and put a smile on your face. Learn a new skill or explore your creative side and bring more playfulness and fun in.

10. Fertility Coaching & Hypnosis

Fertility Coaching and Hypnotherapy probably isn’t the first thing that comes to mind when trying to conceive because it’s a relatively new thing however the benefits can be life changing. 

A Fertility Coach will usually have their own personal experience with infertility and have credible training in their field. It is their job to support you in your journey by being someone to talk to, teach you tools and techniques to reduce your stress, release the fear, reframe your situation, plan those next steps and have you enjoying your life again. 

Hypnosis for fertility has shown to double the success rate of IVF patients and reduce stress significantly. 

If you can create a renewed sense of self love, balance and fun in your life you will be more likely to invite new life in and enjoy the process while you are at it versus creating a deterring energy of stress, control, overthinking and obsession. Start by implementing a few of these tips into your life today and see how they make you feel.

The Anatomy of Massage

A Beginners Guide – Principal #1

Our bodies are certainly remarkable. This year 2020, has provided introspection for many, into the world at large, gratitude for the country we live in, focus on family life, and how we individually can influence our immune system and remain healthy amongst uncertainty.

My occupation allows me to meet people whom present ailments and injuries, in a passive and relaxed environment on the massage table. It is my role to prepare clients for change, via relaxing the nervous system and creating rapport to elicit this change. Sometimes simply mild massage which allows one to sleep and drift away from reality, other times, the time can be very interactive.

It can be advantageous during the time together, to observe a person move when assessing their presenting conditions, offer them video tutorials post massage of stretches and mobility drills, and check in with them as a duty of care in response to their recovery.

The body is connected through fibrous links (fascia) that interconnect muscles. This as human functionality can be seen through walking, running, throwing a ball, and many other everyday patterns of movement.

There are particular principals I share, that will help people understand the complex systems within the body. These principals reshape the clients physiological viewpoint and aid the client toward improved health, and at the very least a better understanding of their body.

One principal, I will share in this blog!

The software = the brain, the nervous system, the organs and the electrical circuits


The hardware = the muscles, the bones and the soft tissue that connect both together.


The general rule of thumb is – the software is more important than the hardware. The hardware protects the software, just as a hardened plastic covering, protects a micro chip and circuitry within a computer.

Firstly, the skeleton literally mesh's with a cooperative synergy of soft tissue (which is my speciality!) including muscles, fascia which envelope whilst nourishing muscle, and the more fibrous tendons and ligaments both of which are robustly nifty at connecting our muscles to our bones. I call all this the hardware of the body!

Secondly, the software of the body! The brain, the spinal cord and all the nerves that plug into muscles and metaphorically light them up, are all one part of our software. For the sake of not leaving out other software examples, the other part, and by no way lesser, the multiple organs shaped as pipes, bags, porous coverings and live pulsating cogs in an efficient wheel, the endocrine system (hormonal glands) which are physiologically placed almost circuitry through the midline of the body, and the lymphatic system which have a multifaceted duty of cleaning, alerting the immune system, and issuing clearance of hormones and fluids throughout the cells, all contribute to what is our collective software that works in coordination with our hardware.

Have you ever felt that your muscles have harboured an imbalance or a recurring niggle or injury that is hard to get rid of? This common issue can have a better chance at clearing, by way of using this principal.

This conceivable reference to a computer, is an ideal way to give you the reader, the owner of a body, and the person that has the exponential ability to perform and recover an insurmountable raft of experiences, a new understanding of how your body and mind coexist in action and recovery. Our body is always regenerating. It is always changing. It never wants pain and only shows us pain when an injury or disease is just around the corner. The muscles and bones will remould, will reform under a new mind patterning. To teach is to learn and to learn is to change. Our bodies are built for stress and are malleable… only through the persistent use of principals, do we become balanced and resident to the struggle and stressors that we can only see them as life itself and not a burden.


Feel yourself yield to giving yourself a break and allowing a challenge to slow you down and let your mind, teach your muscles to a new way of moving. It does show us a new path of health. It does enhance our brain grey matter, and it does afford a better life and a better massage

Don’t resist starch…. Especially resistant starch.

Most of us have heard of probiotics and understand the health benefits they have, in particular on

our gut health…But what about prebiotics, have you considered the important role of these in our diet? What exactly is a prebiotic,  pre-biotics are compounds found in a variety of foods including whole grains, vegetables, fruit, nuts, seeds and legumes that can stimulate the growth of beneficial bacteria in the gut. These foods contain different prebiotic fibre but today l want to talk about resistant starch.

Resistant starch is a type of food starch that remains intact through the stomach and small intestine, reaching the large intestine (colon) in its whole form. So as the name suggests, RS goes through the digestive system undigested and becomes food for the bacteria in the colon.

Research is showing that a diverse microbiome, rich in a variety of prebiotic fibres, is associated with good health.

Once in the colon (large intestine) a fermenting process occurs allowing the colon bacteria’s to break it down into short chain fatty acids (SCFAs) The beneficial bacteria in the colon use the SCFAs as their main source of nutrition which in return promotes healthy gut function, improves gut motility and decrease the risk of leaky gut and inflammatory conditions of the bowel. It can also improve insulin sensitivity and lower blood glucose levels due to its indigestible nature, If they are so good how do l have them?

There are different types of resistant starches available and some are good and some not so good,

when our gut bacteria’s are given the right types of RS they are nourished and in return flourish creating a diverse and health promoting environment in our gut.

There are 4 types of resistant starch,

 Type 1 RS: starch bound within cell walls, found in grains, seeds and legumes. Some of these foods can cause digestive issues in many individuals due to processing

methods and the gluten content, therefore this type of RS is not ideal for everyone.

Type 2 RS: intrinsically indigestible starch due to high amylose content, found in foods such as green (unripe) bananas and raw white potatoes. This type can also be

found in a powder form, such as green banana starch or unrefined potato starch. This is a great option, just make sure you opt for unrefined and natural powders that

are made from the type of RS in isolation and no other added ingredients.

Type 3 RS: formed after one of the above starches have been cooked and rapidly cooled such as cooked and cooled sweet potato, potato or white rice. This is a very

cost-effective method of consumption and a great way to begin testing out RS.

Type 4 RS: industrial starch that has been chemically modified and should always be avoided. Don’t get to excited l’m not giving you permission to rush out and fill your plate with mashed potato,

potato salad and carbohydrates that have been cooked and cooled in excess, there is a balance and like lots of new thing its best to go low and slow. Start with very minimal amounts, for example half a teaspoon in powder form (Type 2) and increase as tolerated, aiming for 1-2 tablespoons per day. Alternatively, add in 1/2 cup of cooked & cooled sweet potato or white (Basmati) rice (Type 3) into a main meal 2-4 times per week and increase as necessary. By going low and slow and following this guide you will avoid symptoms such as bloating or gas which can often be a side effect if not consumed correctly.

If you need further guidance on how you can incorporate RS into your diet book an appointment

with our nutritionist Kylie.