Reactivity vs Response

Reactivity vs Response 

I’ve recently had the opportunity (and the wisdom for once) to take a leaf out of one of my very gracious client’s books, regarding reacting vs responding to life’s circumstances. It was a humbling experience to say the least.  “If I could just stop myself and respond rather than react – things would really be much better all round – for myself and my friends and family.”  Right on the money Lovely!  But what is it exactly that make us so reactive and more likely to explode at circumstances, family members, friends and life in general?  How many times have you found yourself yelling at your kids, stonewalling your partner or slamming the bedroom door when what you should really be doing is counting to ten, taking a deep breath to centre yourself – opening your ears (and most importantly your heart) and really hearing what the other person has to say – whether we like it or not?  I’m sure we are all in agreement that other people – our children in particular – have a knack of pushing our buttons to really show us the inner work we need to focus on.  But how are we ever to change if we can’t stop reacting rather than responding?   

Working with clients who recognise that they are the ones responsible for their reactions and no one can “make them” behave in any particular way is such a joy!  I am constantly reminded of my own inner work and similar situations that possibly could have turned out a little more favourably!!  That said, there are many ways to work with WHY you are responding in this way.  Often it turns out that a clients “trigger” is something from their own childhood or an incident that happened in the earliest part of their careers for example.  A cranky boss, a childhood bully – these are all a part of life’s story that can sometimes have a much more profound effect on us than we previously thought.  Often times these deeply buried memories are the root cause of much of our behaviour regardless of whether we think we are “over it” or not.  

The beauty of the subconscious mind is that it is designed to protect us – therefore any situation that may remind us of an incident in the past that could have possibly caused us harm or made us feel a certain way – does quite literally come back “to haunt us” each and every time we are presented with anything that looks or feels or sounds like the original trauma or incident.  And thus we are transported back to that time – without knowing it – responding in much the same way we did then (or wished we did) – but this time it’s with the wrong person and/or circumstance.  You are no longer an emotionally immature 21 year old or a 5 year old being shamed in front of the entire class for not doing his reading homework.  This is why our explosive reaction to our teenager arriving five minutes late to dinner is not necessarily about their tardiness, but more about our father’s reaction to our own performance at school and never quite living up to his expectations.  

With kinesiology we can very gently work towards a desired outcome, shifting the “old” patterns and responses and putting strategies in place to help us respond in a way that helps us to override that knee-jerk reaction.  


This is one way that kinesiology can assist in helping a client to make the necessary changes in order to move towards what they want – as opposed to what they don’t want!  

Setting up a goal and working with a desired outcome is so powerful.  Yes – recognise old patterns, thank them for the lesson and then let them go through a series of powerful techniques involving eye patterns, affirmations and tapping can shift things very dramatically.  


Planning for the inevitable.  Do the work and the “test” will follow.  We do find that strategising and often times “role playing” is very powerful in creating the “desired outcome”.  Client’s often find they feel lighter and much more energised when thinking about the issue and now better equiped with a plan of action or should I say “a plan of response” is a great way to heal the dynamic that has been happening. 


Remember – healing yourself first and doing the work not only changes your vibration but it has a ripple effect.  So many of my clients report to having a very different experience once they took their boxing gloves off and really heard what was being said.  

Kim is a Kinesiologist and it means the world to be growing with her clients and seeing their dreams and goals become a reality.  Shifting, healing old wounds and letting go is more important than ever for global health – for our children and our children’s children.  “Healing is the end of conflict with yourself.”  Stephanie Gailing   

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Vitamins and Minerals…… Could you be deficient?

We know how important it is to eat nutrient dense whole organic seasonal vegetables
and fruit, grown with care and completely unaltered, gifted to us as nature intended.
A variety of seasonal whole food provides our body with essential vitamins and
minerals allowing for efficient functioning of all aspects of our mind, body and soul.

However, the reality for many of us is
we fall into the marketing persuasion
trap of the Barcode diet. Products
developed or enhanced in a laboratory
to make our lives easier. Products stacked full of sugar, salt, enhancers,
and chemicals to keep the product on the shelf for as long as possible, what do you think that is doing to our body?
Many of these exogenous (from outside an organism) chemicals compete with vitamins and minerals reducing our ability to capture the benefits of these minerals and
vitamins in our food.

This in turn affects energy production and sustainable good health.
Animal products such as chicken, meat, diary and fish are not except from this
chemical onslaught as non-organic animal produce can be contaminated with
hormones, and antibiotics due to current farming practices.
None of us have any idea what chemicals are on board the foods we eat.

Could these hidden chemicals be contributing to our Dis Eased state?
Other factors affecting vitamin and mineral deficiencies in the body are
environmental toxins and regular use pharmacological drugs also vitally important is
the guts ability to absorb vitamins and minerals from foods consumed.

Symptoms of vitamin and mineral deficiencies can include:
 Low energy
 Poor immunity – recurring colds and flu
 Mood and mental health problems
 Impaired digestion
 Skin issues
 Defective bone growth
 Weight issues
 Anaemia
 Nose bleeds
 Muscle weakness
While it would be fantastic if we could all eat organically produced foods prepared
loving at home everyday, the reality is we all have obligations which requires most of
us to have to work long and strenuous hours and at the end of a busy day all we
want to do is prepare a quick meal – enter the Barcode diet!
So if you or someone you know is feeling tired and run down, stressed and low
energy, or just feeling out of sorts, why not check in with me. I am a qualified Holistic
Nutritionist and Western Herbalist.
I offer lots of practical ideas after taking a detailed case history and will customize a
treatment plan, which may include supplements or herbal formulas and dietary
recommendations designed just for you, your body and your lifestyle.
You can book a Nutrition/herbal appointment online or
contact us on ph.02 8406 0679 or email to discuss how we
can best support you.
While you are on our website why not meet the other exceptionally talented
professionals I have the pleasure of working with everyday at Northern Beaches
Integrative Practitioners in Warriewood.

Shirley Carmont
Nutritionist and Herbalist
BHSc. N M, Adv. Dip WHM


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Thyroid health – it affects everyone.

Can’t put your finger on why you’re not feeling quite right? It could be your thyroid.
The thyroid gland may be small but it packs a punch when it comes to your health. The
thyroid, located in the lower part of the neck just below the larynx, has significant impact on
numerous body processes including metabolism, weight management, growth and
development, mental health, energy levels, sleep, digestion, body temperature and
regulation, blood pressure, blood cholesterol levels and reproductive health.
Thyroid health can be impacted by various factors including autoimmune, genetic,
environmental, nutritional status, impaired pituitary and endocrine system function.
The most common thyroid dysfunction can present as underactive – hypothyroidism, or
overactive – hyperthyroidism. Causes of thyroid dysfunction can be varied and complex so
it’s essential to identify any pathology and treat the cause of the dysfunction whilst
providing some symptomatic relief.
If you are experiencing any of the following symptoms, it may indicate that your thyroid is
not functioning properly:
 Fatigue / low energy
 Unexplained weight gain or loss
 Anxiety, depression or mood changes
 Temperature (heat / cold) intolerance
 Digestive disturbance including constipation and loose stools
 Physical changes to the thyroid area (enlargement) and eye area
 Palpitations
 Excessive perspiration
 Sleep disorders
 Poor hair, skin and nail health

The good news is thyroid function can be largely affected by dietary and lifestyle factors.
The use of herbal medicines and nutritional medicine can optimise the function of this
complex gland and bring your body back into balance.
Specific nutrients such as selenium, iodine and tyrosine can have a direct impact on thyroid
function as can lifestyle factors such as stress, exercise and heavy metal toxicity.
Our naturopath takes a full case history and uses a holistic approach during treatment to
ensure all elements of an individual’s treatment optimises thyroid function.
If needed, tests can be performed to determine thyroid activity to identify any imbalances
and underlying pathology.
Herbal medicine can be very effective in modulating thyroid activity by suppressing an
overactive thyroid or stimulating an underactive thyroid.

If you want to know more or want to take steps to ensure your thyroid is functioning at its
optimal level, contact our naturopath on 02 8406 0679 or book online at

Belle Oneile


Photo credit: Thyroid Health Centre